Monday, January 25, 2016

Talking to People Online and Why I Sometimes Don't

If you've been blogging for a while (or, hey, maybe not very long), you know how important it is to connect and interact with readers and other bloggers online.  Whether that interaction is through comments on posts, tweets, emails, whatever.  Basically, you want to be able to form a relationship and a connection with other people in this awesome community!  Not only is it helpful for spreading the word of your blog, it's also a great way to make new friends with similar interests and find people that will support and cheer you on, just like you will for them!

It is awesome, Dean.

Now, I've been blogging for a while now (thought not very consistently recently, I'll admit), and I still find it really difficult to connect with people over the internet and through this blog.  I'm not a really outgoing person outside of the internet and I feel like my shy tendencies tend to carry over into this.  It's very easy for me to doubt and question myself when reaching out to other people.  What if they don't want to talk?  What if I come off sounding rude or unintelligent?  What if they don't get this joke?  They probably have tons of reader friends that will reply much better than I will.  

All of those thoughts and doubts make it very challenging for me to put myself out there and open up to people.  While I've been very grateful to make a few friends and have lovely people that often come here and comment on my posts, I feel like I'm in the way of myself.  I'm my own worst enemy, holding myself back from making more friends on here.  

Basically, what I'm trying to get at is that I don't like being this way!  I want to be able to connect and form lasting friendships with all of you because you're all so awesome!  One of my goals for this year is to worry less about how someone may or may not perceive me.  I'm going to try to let myself open up more because I really do want to connect with you guys more and, hopefully, you'd be up for doing the same thing!  


  1. OMG! I could have written this post, I have the same issues. I see bloggers who are friends with everyone but I have a hard time chatting through FB or twitter.
    I still try to comment on post but I forget to do it sometimes.
    Great post

    Ruty @Reading…Dreaming

    1. It's really intimidating, I agree!! Especially when you know they're so popular or well-known in the blogging community! In reality, they're all super nice and probably wouldn't be weirded out or over critical by us reaching out!

      Thanks for stopping by! :)

  2. Ashtyn, I am right with you girl! I totally understand your insecurities but girl you have to realize that you could be the most amazing person ever, and someone would find something wrong with you. That's just people. Just be the person you are, which is pretty great if I must say so and people will be drawn to you!

  3. I'm really shy and quiet in real life but I'm the opposite online. I think it's because nothing bad has really happened to make me fear communicating with others. You get more comfortable with it the longer you are around and the more you do it. Everyone is super nice and generally you can tell who to avoid by their attitude just in their posts. I wish I could be more active on Twitter and stuff though, that's where I really have the fear.

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